girl talk
November 10, 2007 by Dawn
I am just an average 42 year old woman trying to survive in this crazy world. I love the thought of writing but don’t always have it in me. That said, I am the mother of 2 teenaged boys and one 21 year old boy. Let me tell you life is not easy! and I fear every sin I have ever made is coming back to me through my kids. The world is a whole lot different than when I grew up. I wanted to write about the boys but the thing bothering lately are girls. I want to know what happened. Girls today are so thin that I wonder if we were all obese growing up. I watch the girls walk in the city and my neighborhood with the belly shirts and they must all be a size 2 or less. Do they eat?, or is it peer pressure, or have bodies changed over time? I fear for these girls’ mental and emotional states- which leads me into my next issue- sexuality. Lately, it seems, I have been witnessing a ‘new’ phenomenon. Girls today seem to be proud to be experimenting with bi-sexual or lesbian relationships, as well as, heterosexual. Now there’s nothing wrong with that, but I think it is more chic in these girls’ minds and it’s ‘the cool thing’ to be with both. I have met many girls who find it chic and I wonder if their parents even know what they’re doing and with whom. Have they talked about protection? I fear someday these girls will grow up and regret what they have done. So what do you all think? I’d like to hear your opinions.
tags: teen issues, teen eating disorders, parenting 2007
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These girls are acting out all the behaviors being projected to them via the media and popular social networks like “MySpace”, where it’s cool to practice “debauchery” without any reflection on the future implications. Add to the that the feeling of helplessness in our every day world and there is a bit of an “I don’t give a ****” attitude about what they are into because they are only thinking about “right now”, not 5-10 years from now when they really are trying to get on with a fulfilling life.
I am a sexologist and sexuality educator who is very concerned with how media and culture are affecting our youth. If you or your readers need any resources, I have just written a book called, Third Base Ain’t What it Used to Be: What Your Kids are Learning About Sex Today - and How to Teach Them to Become Sexually Healthy Adults (NAL/Penguin). It may be useful for tackling this complicated and provocative subjects with your children and teens.